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The choice of words
10 Common Sayings That Harm Personal Growth (and What to Say Instead)
What to Change in Language to Build Better Habits (10 Phrases You’re Better off Avoiding)
The choice of words we use to describe ourselves and others goes along with the development of the mindset we carry. Here are ten everyday phrases that could be sabotaging your health, plus much healthier phrases to use instead.
- “You will never grow into anything”
This destructive phrase undermines self-worth and potential. Instead, try:
“You have what it takes, and with effort, you can advance.”
2. “That’s just who I am”
This fixed mindset statement limits growth and change.
Replace with:
“This is who I am right now, but I can always grow and develop.”
3. “Don’t cry” or “Stop being so sensitive”
These phrases invalidate emotions and natural responses. Instead, say,
“It’s okay to feel your emotions. Would you like to talk about it?”
4. “You always/never do this”
Such absolute statements create defensive reactions and ignore progress. Try:
